Sunday, January 06, 2008
"In Search Of..."

-- January 6th, 2008 --

For the sake of not arguing with anyone about sexual preference, I'll just say that there is truly someone out there for any and everyone. But... what happens when you're outnumbered? In New York, for every one man, there's at least 4 to 5 women. Dope for me. Horrible for them. If you have that right look of fashion-forwardness, go-getter and all around personality, you can bag yourself a few girls.

But as I went to Southpaw last night [shouts out to Jah - good looks at the door], I noticed a trend that was emphasized by MSNBC's documentary on Black Women in America. Women are continually growing frustrated with the lack of like-mindedness within our race and find solace in one of two activities when going out: dancing with their girls or finding the attention they need with another race.

Am I the beacon of Blackness that women should come running to? Yes. But this post is not about me and my love for the Sistas, it is about what the future holds for the plight of the Black man. With outlets like Facebook, which started out being a college social forum, now turning into a hybrid MySpace -- anyone with an e-mail can showcase their life via notes and images. But the truth is sometimes stranger than fiction -- leaving the ladies to search for greener land after finding out that all this guy was trying to was graze on her pastures. I had a conversation with two ladies, both graduates of NYU, about being single in NY. They came to the conclusion that they're single for their aren't that many choices for them and can always find a man to fit a particular need... not just all or most of them.

It's a sad realization that kind of pigeonholes us as the struggling Black men in America, when there is so much more that meets the eye. This is no slight against interracial dating or relationships, but to me -- it's sad when a queen can't stand next to her king. It is more than just education, finances and following the hip-hop aesthetic which drives a wedge between us as Black men and women. It's the growing communication gap which has taken a turn for the worst as women are going for their more carnal desires which play to a man's ego... but doesn't build a home into a house.

Happy New Year's to all. Let me know what you think...?

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